SIGNS THAT THEY'RE CHEATING

From Raymond B. Green, a private investigator and former police officer, and Marcella Bakur, a psychology professor at Marymount Manhattan College, here are “Signs That He/She Is Having an Affair”

1. Your mate is more attentive to your needs than usual.
2. Your mate begins buying you gifts – lots of gifts.
3. Your mate frequently picks fights with you.
4. Your mate constantly talks about your relationship ending when you fight or argue.
5. Your mate becomes very moody.
6. Your mate never talks to you.
7. Your mate’s taste in music suddenly changes.
8. Your mate continually criticizes another person. He is trying to make you think that type of individual would never be of interest to him, although there actually exists a secret attraction.
9. Your mate criticizes things about you that he or she once found attractive and appealing.
10. Your mate begins closing doors when you are around.
11. Your mate stops complimenting you on your looks.
12. Your mate stops saying, “I love you.”
13. You mate acts guilty when you do something nice for him or her.
14. Your mate turns the table and accuses you of cheating but has no evidence.
15. Your mate would rather spend time with friends than be with you.
16. Your mate stops being affectionate.
17. Your mate is more interested in reading a book or watching television than talking with you or making love to you.
18. Your mate begins using new catch phrases or starts to tell types of jokes or express opinions that are unusual for him or her.
19. Your mate has been acting emotionally distant and withdrawn but when you ask about it, he doesn’t want to discuss it and becomes very protective of his privacy.
20. Your mate seems disinterested and distracted during sex.
21. Your mate talks in her sleep and mentions the name of a particular person on more than one occasion.
22. Your mate seems startled or confused when awakened. This uncertainty may be caused by not being sure which bedroom and which lover’s bed he or she is in.
23. Your mate’s behavior is such that your friends or family members begin asking you what’s wrong.
24. Your mate easily becomes offended when you make normal and natural inquiries and may demand to know why you are checking up on him or her.
25. Your mate’s sleeping pattern changes considerably from the norm and may include unexplainable exhaustion, restlessness, frequent nightmares and sleep-talking.
* More: Your parrot starts screaming out a stranger’s name.
* He says “Why can’t you make love like my mistress?”
* Your mate starts asking you to wear a nametag.
* Another sign: They pack up everything they own and leave.
* How about, “Your mate wants to renew your wedding vows, but change them to suggestions”?
* PHONE TOPIC: When did you realize he/she was cheating on you?